Thursday, September 16, 2010

Back to the Future

It's a little bit trippy being ADHD step-mom to an ADHD kid.

When I was a kid, I had ADHD, but nobody really talked about it back then, and I was not diagnosed until adulthood. I certainly had trademark ADHD issues to deal with (anger management, organizational difficulties, focus and hyperfocus issues...and the anxiety that often comes with living with unmanaged ADHD) and my mother was actually very effective at helping me to address them, even though they were not brought up in that context.

She taught me to clean my room my putting "types" of stuff into piles and then finding a home for the piles. (I still organize this way and this is how I teach the kids to clean...) She talked to me directly about having "big" feelings and figuring out non-destructive ways to deal with them. (I had books like Mr. Grumpy, and Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day...and paid a couple of visit to a nice therapist who helped me to learn new ways to deal with feeling angry) Perhaps the most remarkable thing about this, is that I would not be surprised if my mother was "diagnosable" with ADHD...she was able to teach me these skills, but has also had to work at many of them herself. Kind of cool to think about...that we ADHDers may be more able, in some ways, to help others at times, than help ourselves.

In any case, stepdaughter is very worried right now about keeping track of things. Oh...don't I know how that goes.

We talked about how the best thing you can do is pick ONE PLACE for a particular item (in this case, an MP3 player) and always put it there. Just start with one item. And always, no matter what, try to put it back in the same spot. Don't have to be perfect and get it right every time...but the practicing will make it a little easier.

Sigh. Yeah.

Monday, September 13, 2010

Social Coping Mechanisms...

This is such a great post from Jeff of Jeff's ADD Mind that I have to just repost it and let it speak for itself. It speaks to a topic that every adult with ADHD probably struggles with in their own way, the issue of having to "deal" in social situations. The "Katy R." comment is from me:

"Hiding in Plain Sight"

You owe it to your future self...

...if you do a bit of reading ADHD, you may run into tidbits about how people with untreated ADHD may develop further issues as they age. I'm not a doctor and I'm not a psychologist, so I'm not going to get into the specifics of what these are, or why, or how. You can do your own research there.

But I do want to just throw this little bone out there into the blogosphere: knowing that fact...even in vague terms...why would a person NOT seek evaluation and treatment, if needed?

I'm sure there's a million "reasons", but I'm here to give you my opinion, because this is MY blog and my opinion is that there is no good excuse. Especially since untreated ADHD often leads to consequences that other people experience, not just the untreated ADHDer.

You owe it to your health. You owe it to your professional life. You owe it to your personal relationships.

(Steps off of soapbox to return to ADHD life in progress...)