tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7242031562910794955.post368404269519967537..comments2023-05-08T07:38:26.610-07:00Comments on 18 Channels - my ADHD colored life...: Foul Moods and One Sided Conversations18 Channelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16841490256076600058noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7242031562910794955.post-7176365986396657812009-12-07T12:37:57.920-08:002009-12-07T12:37:57.920-08:00Yes, Gina, I am sure I'm not the only one deal...Yes, Gina, I am sure I'm not the only one dealing with this. And I don't mean to imply that familial concern is inappropriate, not at all. I know that we ADHDers all experience different levels of impairment, and may be more impaired in some areas of life than others so sometimes, it can be truly valuable for our loved ones to give us a heads-up when they are concerned about us. What I am expressing frustration with is the TYPE of conversation. I should be an equal partner in conversations about my mental health, period. We all should.<br /><br />I do not owe them an explanation, I give it because despite their disrespect towards me, I respect them as a concerned member of my family and I actually do WANT to share dialogue with them about this! That's the part that kills me, I WANT this dialogue, but not on these terms.<br /><br />The worst part perhaps? Is that I want to be able to rely on my family members to indeed, let me know when they're concerned about me. And I want to be able to trust that when they give me feedback, it's accurate, and genuinely offered...not offered as an attempt to control or invalidate me. And in this situation...it seems I just can't trust the dynamic. If I didn't have other strong people connections in my life, this would be making me feel very alone right now.18 Channelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16841490256076600058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7242031562910794955.post-56323314669032121962009-12-07T12:14:22.812-08:002009-12-07T12:14:22.812-08:00Mike, I look forward to checking out your blog, th...Mike, I look forward to checking out your blog, thank you for sharing. In order to learn to be more effective, we adult ADHDers are constantly charged with the task of identifying out strengths and figuring out how to best apply them to make life seem a little easier...so we can spend less time on tasks and situations that are more frustrating. For me, writing is a strength. It's also a stress release. When writing for my blog I don't have to worry about if I'm rambling on too much, if I'm boring someone, if I'm overstaying my conversational welcome and monologuing... And from a young age, I received a lot of training and practice in the realm of writing. Many of my friends are gifted writers and when we were young, I remember that it seemed each of them had a particular type of writing that really suited their talents, and even though I was a good writer, I just couldn't seem to find mine. Until I discovered playwriting as a young(er) adult. Dialogue is my medium...and in a way, when you're writing a blog, even if you're the only one reading it, it's a bit of a dialogue. Keep writing! My organizational abilities when writing are definitely the product of practice...I can tell when I look at samples of my writing from childhood, before the rigors of practice fully took root. And it's your blog...organize it however you want...or not at all! Freedom...blogs give us freedom...18 Channelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16841490256076600058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7242031562910794955.post-43400576341515203082009-12-07T10:42:30.880-08:002009-12-07T10:42:30.880-08:00Hello, I found your blog on ADHD MAGAZINE.
I am an...Hello, I found your blog on ADHD MAGAZINE.<br />I am an adult with ADD, and I also blog about it. But yours seems alot more organized than mine. Maybe I need to work more at it.Keep writing. This post seems like it describes my relationship with my family very well. I think so anyway. <br /><br />-Mike<br />My Blog: http://addeternal.blogspot.com/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7242031562910794955.post-73727397997250854902009-12-07T09:58:10.186-08:002009-12-07T09:58:10.186-08:00A perplexing situation indeed and one that no doub...A perplexing situation indeed and one that no doubt many adults with ADHD encounter. Thanks for bringing it to light. <br /><br />And good luck sorting it out. <br /><br />GinaGina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.com